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Should I Destroy Property If I’m Cheated On?

By September 16, 2020 No Comments


Some women may say yes to this question. They feel like they are entitled to certain rights and they want the person who hurt them to suffer. Most women know that men value their cars and take pride in them. They spend lots of money to maintain the outer appearances. Some men have rims, stereo systems, and other cool features. They make sure that their ride is never dirty. For that reason, a woman might hit below the belt and damage a car. That was my mentality years ago. I remember professing, “You hurt me. Oh, yeah. I will get you back and hit you where it hurts.” I was talking about destroying vehicles. Sadly, I have messed up plenty of cars when someone messed with me. However, it wasn’t the right thing to do and Christians shouldn’t destroy anyone’s property.

Berean Study Bible
Proverbs 29:11 says, “A fool vents all his anger, but a wise man holds it back.”

A few years ago, I was in a backslidden state. There was a song on the radio called, “I Bust The Windows Out Your Car.” I remember blasting that music and singing along with it, not knowing that I would actually destroy my ex-husband’s car a year later. The enemy was planting seeds in me with a catchy tune and lyrics full of vengeance. God warns us not to avenge ourselves.

English Standard Version
Romans 12:19 says, “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.”

We have to trust God to fight all our battles. Some people will cheat but we must pray. The great news is that everyone isn’t a cheater. Some people truly love God and want to please Him. For that reason, they will honor their marriages and place certain boundaries, so adultery will never be their portion.

When I look back, I was taught to destroy a man’s car if he cheated. In my mother’s and aunt’s defense, no one is perfect. My parents and aunt did their best to raise me. My family wasn’t saved growing up and we didn’t know the Lord, so when we got angry, we fought others. When I was nine, I was shocked as I came home from school one day and saw my father’s red truck damaged. The windshield was bashed in. Sugar and vinegar were poured down the engine. The tires were slashed. My siblings and I were scared and said, “Mom! Why did you do this to daddy’s car?” That’s when my mother told us about our father’s infidelity. I ended up hating my father for many years until I got saved and God revealed my hatred for him. I forgave him and now we have a beautiful relationship. God can restore any relationship if you allow Him. After several months of separation, my parents reconciled and now they are happily married. They will celebrate their 38th wedding anniversary in November. They both found Jesus and walked away from Buddhism.

I didn’t realize that a demonic seed was planted in me that would manifest years later. When I was eighteen years old, I thought I was in love. I had meant this guy in the strip club where I worked. He was a player and cheated on me with several women. He gave me an STD and when I confronted him, he denied it. By the grace of God, I am disease free today. To make matters worse, this man got someone pregnant while we were dating. I was heartbroken and I wanted him to suffer. The first thing that came to my mind was to destroy his car. I drove over to his home in a rage. I got out of my car and popped the trunk. I took out the pump that you lift the car up with when there is a flat tire. I started bashing in his windshield. His mother came out into the yard and I cursed her out. Then he came out of the house to attack me and I ran into my car to drive away. He threw a boulder into my windshield. I write about my testimony in, “I Almost Died.”

English Standard Version
Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be angry and do not sin.”

Years later, my ex-husband cheated on me and after months of enduring his infidelity, I snapped. I rammed my car into his. I also talk about this testimony in, “I Almost Died.” I suffered many things out of anger and foolery. It’s wrong to destroy property. I went to jail then was on probation for two years. Being arrested was a turning point in my life. I remember hearing the Lord say, “Kimberly, it’s time to grow up.” I am giving you the same advice, “Grow up!” You don’t want to spend time in jail or on probation. It’s not fun spending money that you don’t have on restitution or repairs. You don’t want the enemy to come into your life and cause chaos. Let go of the hurt and pain. Forgive. Jesus can heal you and set you free. God has since allowed me opportunities to apologize to the guy whose car I bashed and to my ex-husband. When I saw these two men who hurt me, there was no bitterness in my heart. God had truly done a great work in my life.

We have to stop becoming violent in front of our children because they are like sponges. They will imitate you when they get older if they don’t allow God to break cycles.

Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way that they should go; when they get old, they will not depart from it.”

We must stop watching violence on television and stop listening to revengeful music. Again the world may celebrate lawlessness but God doesn’t. It actually grieves the Holy Spirit. Become a peacemaker. If someone cheats on you, let them go. God can bless you with someone better. If you decide to give your spouse another chance, God can restore but don’t be a foolish person tearing down your own house.