This message is a continuation. We all sometimes face a fork in a road where God gives us a choice of which pathway we can take. The word says, “How long are you going to stay halted between two opinions?”

21 Then Elijah stood in front of them and said, “How much longer will you waver, hobbling between two opinions? If the Lord is God, follow him! But if Baal is God, then follow him!” But the people were completely silent. (1 Kings 18:21 NLT)

It is beneficial for us to think about things that are lovely and of a good report. It becomes a rematch again between the flesh and the spirit. Whichever is the strongest will be the winner. This is just a reminder to help you resist the temptation of going down the road of hurtful past experiences in relationships. Those hurts are a wound that needs to be exposed to the Word of God with the Holy Spirit so that healing, repairing and restoring can take place.

A relationship is when we are connected, correspondence, alliance, bond, kinship, and parallel. In addition, it can be a relationship by blood or marriage. In a blood relationship, there is usually a common ancestor. Many times it is difficult to go to the person about your relationship if you are wounded. First, you have to be healed. Second, it has to be lead by Holy Spirit as to how and when to approach the person. It can be letting the person know that you acknowledge some changes in your relationship that were not positive that changed the dynamics of your relationship. They know as well as you do in most cases. In some cases, you and that person’s personality clashed. Once you all got comfortable enough to express how you felt, perhaps one or both said what you wanted to say.

There was no regard to how they made the other party feel. That can go both ways. This is what leads to a relationship that has become broken. Sometimes it’s because people did not respect boundaries. If this is the case, you decide to no longer walk together in a relationship. In other words, you two are on different ships. Your ships may occupy the same lake as well as harbor. You no longer desire to be in the same space with them. You don’t want to be in the same room, the same house, nor the same church. It can become a thing where you try to sink each other boats through shooting words of hurt ( death) instead of words of encouragement to bring hope (life). It should never get to that point. Most of us do not know how to deal with conflict.

When we lack discernment with conflict, it becomes difficult to prevent the relationship from going into a place of no return. However, there is a point we can work things out. This is why we should not allow anger or disgruntlement to continue over 24 hours. Employers recognize this. They teach their managers conflict resolution. They want the conflict resolved in their team members so they can work together as a healthy team. People learn from each other. Every idea by every member may not fall under the vision nor mission statement. This applies to a home, family, church, or workplace. Relationships cannot be dissolved due to this. If so, there will be limited relationships and teams that flourish. It can be difficult to begin new healthy relationships if there have not been resolutions in the old. If you have tried to make amends with the Holy Spirit’s help, but they wouldn’t receive you, there is no choice but to shake the dust off your feet and move on. If you avoid making amends and begin a new relationship, it is similar to putting new wine in old wineskins.
As soon as this new relationship begins to have anything similar to the old ones, you start to replay in your mind that you can’t trust people. You begin to think about how your past relationships hurt. Your imagination begins to show you past conflicts. To be continued.

Prophetess Lenita Akles is married to Dennis. They have three children and two grandsons. Together they attend Kingdom Place Ministries. Prophetess Lenita Akles works as a Registered Nurse and hospital chaplain.